Relationships are one of those things we say we want, but we don’t really know how to actually do.
There are no classes to make us good in a relationship, and that means we make a LOT of mistakes.
So… let’s make it a bit easier.
Read these 12 tips from people who tried unconventional stuff and it worked out!
Let’s get on it!
1. Separate beds FTW!
“We have been married for 10 years, and have not slept in the same bed together for about 9.5 of those years.
When we bought our house 6 years ago, we opted for separate bedrooms completely.
It works for us – I am a very light sleeper, he snores. I like to go to bed early, he likes to stay up later. We wake up at different times.
This way we have our own schedules and are comfortable every night.
I still have my side of the bed though, lol.
2. Friends? Naw… I’m good.
“We don’t mix friends.
I don’t hang out with his friends and he doesn’t hang out with mine.
We keep that separate and it’s worked really well for us.
He gets his time away and I get mine.”
3. Keep that money apart, kids!
“My husband and I have separate checking accounts.
We each pay a couple bills, there isn’t a 50/50 split.
I don’t know exactly how much he has in his account and vice versa.
We have never fought over money and we have been together for 19 years.”
4. Syncing is overrated.
“Married for 3+ years and only recently we came up with this rule that we don’t follow the same sleeping and eating schedule.
We cook dinner together, but eat at different times and go to bed at different times.
Eating dinner together on a table as a family is overrated.”
5. Get out! In a good way…
“My husband and I each have three free passes a year to get out of events.
Say we were invited to dinner with my college friends and he didn’t want to go, he could use a free pass to get out of it and there are no hard feelings.”
6. Gamers make better luvahs…
“We’ve been playing various Mario Karts every weekend, for 8 years.
It’s a great, cooperative time spent together.
There MUST be one rule though: no friendly fire, unless explicit consent is given!!
Breaking this rule will lead to yelling, surliness and even alienation of affection!”
7. No shop talk.
“My best friend and her boyfriend have a rule that not many people would understand: they don’t talk about his job. She said she decided to do that after they were in bed and he started complaining about his boss.
Since his boss is my boss as well, I understood why he complained that much, but she said it made their lives really easier and that every now and then they still discuss certain aspects of his career, but not his boss.
know most couples feel like they should always talk about everything, but they found a way of making things better by leaving certain topics off the table.
They have been together for 5 years and it works for them.”
8. His and hers TVs!
“This sounds dumb, but not doing ‘separate TVs.’
Most couples I know, one person will watch something in the living room while the other will go to a different place to watch something different.
We like to give each other’s shows/movies/sports a chance and we usually end up liking it or just roasting it and having fun.
My boyfriend has gotten me into horror movies this way and I have slowly engulfed him into the Bachelor universe and trash reality TV.”
9. Hey future self… chill!
“My partner and I make videos of us telling our future selves not to be mad at each other.
It helps break the tension if we get in a pointless argument and don’t want to stay annoyed.
It’s a nice reminder that it’s much more fun to hug and forgive than to stay mad for no reason.”
10. Gifts! Be gone!
“My girlfriend and I don’t do gifts for any holidays or birthdays, but instead we have been doing experiences where we plan a day that the other person would enjoy.
So for Christmas I plan a day full of things she would want to do, and she plans a day full of things I would want to do – rule is no complaining!
We are opposite in a lot of ways so it’s a fun ways to have our worlds collide.”
11. Crushing the jealousy.
“We tell each other about things like work crushes – talking about it makes it funny and we can laugh about it instead of letting it build into something real.
Having a good laugh about a stupid (and human!) thing like a crush makes us feel like we’re in it together and always choose each other.”
12. Alone time is good.
“We go on separate holidays. He goes off to do music stuff and get muddy with his friends, and I go off to make cookies and go to museums with mine.
We both get the house to ourselves for a weekend and when the holiday-maker comes home both of us are refreshed and relaxed and ready to tell each other about our separate adventures.”
You have to give them kudos for being willing to try, right?
If you and your partner use a hack that’s not in the marriage manuals, share it with us in the comments!