It’s hard to think about the people who have already passed away and who will pass away in our lives.
That’s why it’s important for all of us to appreciate the time we get to spend with those we care about.
People on AskReddit talked about who they’d look for first if they were in a room with every person they’ve ever met in their life.
Let’s see what they had to say.
1. You miss him.
I would love to see him strong and healthy one last time, as opposed to the sick man he was at the end.
He was a runner, and he had the most beautiful, strong legs.
He was such a good dad.”
2. Role model.
“My AP Calculus teacher, he was the only person in the entire school who noticed I was being ab**ed at home.
He approached me cautiously, never judged or blamed me. He treated me with respect at a time where no other person did, it broke my heart when he d**d a few months later.
I never took the AP Calculus test because I was devastated (he was my teachers years before that so I always looked up to him).”
He d**d when I was around 5, and I loved him as much as my parents.
Although I don’t remember much of him, I would really want to sit down and talk to him, get to know him…I miss him.”
“My cousin. He d**d last year after being struck by a car.
He was 10 years younger than me and like a little brother.
His birthday is one day before mine. My birthday is going to hit different this year.”
5. Best friend.
“My best friend Gabrielle.
She d**d from cancer when we were 12, it was so hard watching her go.
I named my first born after her, and am best friends with her little sister now. I miss her.”
6. The stranger.
“I met a man on a plane once, sat next to me. He was about my dads age and later I found I was about his daughters age.
We started chatting, and just a few days before I had just cut off contact with my veteran al**holic father. He asked me about myself and I told him I worked in child welfare. He then told me he was a veteran addictions therapist. I don’t even remember how we got on the topic but by the end of the flight he was telling me “tell your dad you love him. Tell him you want him to get sober for you, because you want to see him live a happy and full life.”
It was such a bizarre encounter with what was going on in my life at the time and I’m not religious but maybe divine intervention placed us in that place at that time? I’d look for him to tell him how much that conversation meant to me, that it was the most impactful meeting with a stranger I’ve ever had.”
7. Childhood friend.
“My childhood best friend. We were best friends from 4 to 17.
He battled with Leukemia from 13 to 17. The last year of his life he was constantly in and out of the hospital and was immunocompromised. I got to see him but we had to keep our distance. We were planning on going to the same college for engineering.
I know all he would want to know is if I did it and kept moving. I plan on naming my first born after him. 12 years later and I still think about him most days and he is my driving force to stay positive and keep on pushing.”
“I lost dad when I was 16. He had brain cancer.
I’m 21 now, finally attending University to do a degree in computer science (which is what he did too, and I bet he never would have thought I would follow in his path!) I’m in a loving relationship with someone who is so smart and interesting that I wish my dad – another loving and interesting human – could meet.
So many memories and events I wish he could be there to see.
I’m just thankful I had him for 16 years.”
9. The pain is still there.
“My daughter. She was 9 years old when she passed 14 years ago.
The pain never goes away.
I so loved being her dad. We will meet again.”
10. Thank you.
“A man pulled a teenage me out of a crowd at the Minnesota state fair 17 years ago.
He insisted that studying abroad was the best choice he every made and that if I did it, I wouldn’t regret it.
He shoved a sign-up booklet into my arms and passionately implored me to fill it out.
I could tell he meant it.
Six months later I received my acceptance into the Rotary Student Exchange program. I was off to Japan.
This not only changed my life forever, but that of my families.
The Japanese girl they hosted for a year was just my sister’s maid-of-honor.
I now speak four languages. I’m married and live in Beijing.
…and none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been right there at that exact moment or if he had grabbed someone else.
I’d just like to find him and tell him “Thank you, you were right.””
11. From the meet0-up group.
“I used to be in a meet-up group that gathered once a month or so. One of the members, who I never really talked to, had a girlfriend who was dope.
Every time she came along to a meet up, we instantly clicked and spent the whole event chatting.
I wanted to exchange info so that we could keep in contact, but I’d always forget when we saw each other.
One day her girlfriend (the actual group member) shows up and tells us that they had a nasty breakup.
I seriously contemplated asking for her ex’s number because I really wanted to be her friend.
I’d look for her.”
12. Time to apologize.
“My ex best friend.
That was my first true friend, used to sleep over his house and his mom always hugged me when seeing me even when he wasn’t around.
I ended up talking to this college girl he liked (we were both seniors in high school so it was kind of a big deal).
I knew he liked her but didn’t think he took it seriously, I also didn’t take it seriously and me and the girl never did anything. Not even a kiss.
I think it was genuinely just the betrayal of me giving a girl attention that he made it known he was into that did it for him.
He has pretty low self esteem so I think it triggered that in him as well.
Anyway, that was my fu**ing boy and I miss him all the time.
Wish I could sincerely say I’m sorry but that’s a relationship that will never be what it used to be due to the damage.”
“My wife. She took her own life 5 months ago.
Please ask for help, and think of what you will miss.
I’m still fu**ing crushed while trying to figure out how to move on.”
“The boy who had cerebral palsy and slowly got more paralyzed as he grew older and eventually d**d at 13 years old.
I used to bully him in middle school for the way he walks, he d**d almost 6 years ago now and ever since then I wish I could have told him that I was sorry for being such a complete a**hole to him all those years ago.”
15. Where’d she go?
“My first ever crush.
We went to different middle schools and I lost touch.
Always wanted to know what she looks like now, if she has a family, and if she’s happy.”
16. How about now?
“My manager from when I was a teenager.
I was in love with her and asked her if she’d consider going out with me when I was in college.”
17. I’m going that way.
I’d like to never speak to her again, so if I knew where she was in the room, I could avoid her.
I’ve been out of mental health counseling for months now, and I have no intention on going back.”
18. Just for a minute.
“My brother who passed 5 years ago. Even if he would technically be a zombie in this scenario.
And even if he weren’t alive at all. Just want to share existence with him for another minute or two.”
19. Someone from the past.
“Hailey. I met her when I was 14 at this church thing.
She had had a rough go at life, but was very kind to me. We spent most of it talking on a little boat on the lake / pond. I got her number so we could hang out. I called and her mom cussed me out.
I tried to clear things up with her at church on Sunday, telling her that I wasn’t the one turning her daughter to drugs. They weren’t at church and I never saw her again.
I miss you Hailey, you were very kind and I wished we couldve been better friends.”
20. Sorry about that.
“My prom date. I thought we were going as friends.
I was too young and stupid to realize how much she liked me and put herself out there, just to have me not notice.
Owe her an apology for that.”
21. Army buddy.
“A friend I had while in the Army.
He d**d in 2019 at the age of 34 from cancer. From diagnosis to d**th was about 6 months. He was very private about his illness.
I never new he was sick until he d**d. It’s one of those life events I’ve never been able to “get over” for lack of a better term.”
22. One more talk.
“Lost my grandmother two months ago. It’s been shi**y.
If I could talk to her one more time, I wouldn’t be saying anything she didn’t already know, but I’d still say it.
I guess I just wish I could’ve said goodbye. The only ones who got that chance were my grandfather and mother.”
23. Where did she go?
“That girl who asked for my number, but never called.
It seemed like fate. I had been mourning the loss of a love one for years at this point, and my feelings basically stopped existing. But then I heard a song in a tv show that made me bawl my eyes out. I decided to embrace the sad feeling, downloaded the song, and went for a walk listening to it on repeat.
On my way back home I was waiting for a light to change green, when a jogger pulled up next to me. The light turned green, and she continued jogging. But when she got across the street, she stopped and waited for me. She motioned for me to take my headphones off, then asked me if I was listening to Agnes Obel.
I said yes, and told her about how I had been emotionally d**d for years until I heard that song. She told me she had the same experience, and first heard the song in the same show that I did!
We chatted for about 15 minutes until we were going separate ways, but not before she asked me for my number. But no happy ending here, it’s been at least 7 years and I’ve since changed my number.”
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