Co-parenting is something that tons of people will have to deal with in their lives, either as parent or child or both.

Maybe it’s the result of a divorce, or a split. Maybe the couple was never that committed to begin with, and the pregnancy was unplanned. However it happened, there’s no use falling into the traps of bitterness and struggle and competition that can so often accompany these situations. It is, in fact, possible to co-parent peacefully.

Here’s some advice from people who have been there.

10. Don’t do the deed

I’m a little more disturbed by the implications of how much your kids know.

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9. If you can’t say anything nice…

You really don’t want to pit your kids against their parents.

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8. Don’t hate, appreciate

It’s about them, at the end of the day.

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7. Don’t weaponize

They deserve better than that.

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6. It’s not your business

People have a right to move on.

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5. It’s different for everybody

Take what’s helpful, ignore the rest.

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4. Rationality is hard

But it is essential.

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3. Listen up

They’re experiencing a lot and can talk about it more than you probably think.

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2. Share the schedule

For those who don’t know, you can easily set up a Google Calendar to share relevant things with others while still keeping some things private.

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1. Do it for them

Sometimes you gotta do a little keeping up appearances.

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Sounds like good advice to me!

What would you add to this list?

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